i feel bad about not doing the Judaism Food Things but then i remember that in all likelihood, god doesn’t want me to DIE
This is something we talked about a LOT in hebrew school when we got a little older and could begin to debate/discuss torah and rabbinical writings. Basically it boils down to you’re right. Judaism prioritizes life over all things. (When you get into different striations of Judaism you get into the pro-life/pro-choice debate junk, but in American Reform Judaism, which is where I’m coming from, it’s pretty much life + bodily autonomy, with some exceptions here and there.) I remember being told a story. A man is trapped outside in the cold at night. He has all the things to make a fire but he also knows it’s the Sabbath. According to tradition he isn’t allowed to light a fire on the Sabbath. But he’s going to freeze to death if he doesn’t! What should he do, light a fire and disobey the word of God? Or freeze to death, possibly hoping for a miracle that he won’t? The clear answer is to light the fire. Not only would God rather he live, God would rather he give himself a chance to get un-lost and celebrate more Sabbaths in the future.
There are special dispensations for elderly or sick or pregnant people on Yom Kippur so they can eat, and particular twists of law for Jews living in locations where they’re not allowed to practice Judaism visibly (many cultures that have a lot of pork consumption also have a strong tradition of secret Jewish communities, for example.)
So, keep in mind that I’m coming from the perspective of someone culturally raised as a Reform Jew and I’ve been an atheist since I was 17 years old, but the one thing I’ve always been down with re: Judaism was its inherent logic when it comes to its own weird food rules. If you lived in a community with a lot of other Jews, they would bend over backwards to accommodate your food deals, finding you stuff you can eat for Passover and bringing it to you and having way more structure around food than you currently have. (I bet you would rarely be allowed to forget to eat!) But you don’t. That’s okay.